Let me be clear. Violence isn’t the answer. Never has been. Get this: violence is learned. Many of us just do what’s been done to us without questioning it. On the other hand, peaceful parenting requires a necessary shift. When that occurs spanking and other forms of abuse (think: emotional, psychological, physical…) are out.
http://www.dontbeatblackkids.com/ A book about why beatings are so prevalent in our community, the damaging effects of hitting & more. Yes, she discusses alternatives that foster self-discipline.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqwY1ouGtRI Author speaks about the book.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ef0tuhMHOU Author and others discuss the book.
http://www.parentingpeacefully.com/ Effective alternatives to spanking, gentle parenting techniques & more.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkniNsQ3lsU Raising up a child: Changing attitudes in the Caribbean
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XfjfceGMGg Part 2 of above
There is a difference between punishment and discipline. Real talk.