Honouring our ancestors: Dia de los Muertos

Mornin’ folks. 
For those who haven’t seen Coco yet here it is: https://www0.123moviesfun.org/film/coco-22867/watching.html?ep=1&sv=2
I absolutely love it, however, my daughter isn’t ready for it yet. Soon come though. For now a few scenes scare her.
 
A friend just told me about “The Book of Life.” It’s from 2014. Same subject. Children’s film. I’m gonna check it out sometime. Have any of you seen it? If so what are your thoughts?
 
 
Looking to further educate your children about Dia de los Muertos? These links may help:
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The journey of peaceful parenting

Most of us had parents who operated from a fear-based mindset. As a result, we may have naturally adopted that mindset as our own, and that negative or fear-based mindset could be what we are operating from each day, affecting every interaction and decision.

The fear-based mindset says:
1. I have to control my child’s behavior.
2. My child learns through consequences and/or punishment not to repeat bad behavior.
3. I am the dominant figure; my child is under me.

Because many of us were parented punitively, we learned early on that this is how children are raised. This makes shifting our mindset a challenging but important step in becoming conscious, positive parents. You essentially must re-wire your brain to think about children and parenting in a new way, and this requires important self-work. The good news is that conscious – or authoritative – parenting is shown to have the best outcome!

Authoritative parents operate from a love-based mindset that says:

1.My role is to guide and teach my child appropriate behavior.
2.My child learns through the examples set in the home and through limits that are set and enforced respectfully and with empathy.
3.While I am the leader, my child has equal rights to be respected and to be heard.

Authoritative parents place a high value on the relationship, making sure to create and maintain a positive, healthy parent-child relationship. They take the time to explain their rules and boundaries to their children, and they take their kids’ feelings into consideration. They also take the time to teach appropriate behavior and head off problems before they start. Research shows that children with authoritative – or positive- parents tend to be happier and more successful. They are more likely to be responsible, have higher self-esteem, and make good decisions.

Steps for Shifting Your Mindset:

-Educate yourself on the development of your child’s brain. Understanding what your child is cognitively capable of will go a long way in changing your perspective on behavior. For example, when you understand that a toddler’s tantrum isn’t a calculated move against you but rather the result of overwhelming emotions in an immature brain, you will parent that child differently. When you see naughtiness, the urge is to punish, but when you see a child who is struggling, the urge is to help.
-Reframe your thoughts surrounding your child’s behavior. Rather than seeing it as misbehavior, see it as an opportunity to teach your child something valuable. Assume that your child has positive intent even if the behavior is negative. Seeing the best in your child means you will approach the problem with a positive mindset.
-Take time for proper self-care. A well-hydrated, well-nourished, well-rested parent is able to stay calmer and make better decisions. You matter, too!
Feed your mind good things. Read uplifting books and articles. Follow positive people on social media. Develop healthy friendships with optimistic and like-minded people. Be careful not to complain or criticize too much. Having a happier, more positive mindset, in general, will help you be a more conscious parent!

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