Seven year cycles

Happy Sunday! Recently I was talking with a cousin about seven year cycles specifically seventh earthday celebrations. The following links can help as we think about planning our get-to-gethers:

https://www.spiritualgrowthkeys.com/cycles-of-life/

https://www.coolest-kid-birthday-parties.com/birthday-traditions/

http://www.just-passing-thru.com/2013/01/why-do-we-celebrate-childs-7th-birthday.html#.XX45kShKjjE

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Jus’ leave ’em be

Our babies come wired to play. The best thing we can do is give them the space to do that for several hours every day. Unstructured and uninterrupted.  Yes indeed. Get out of their way. 

The importance of uninterrupted play

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/200901/how-ruin-children-s-play-supervise-praise-intervene

http://mommyme-thewonderyears.blogspot.com/2011/05/importance-of-uninterrupted-time.html

http://www.nature-play.co.uk/blog/the-adult-role-in-child-led-play-how-to-become-a-learning-ally

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/toddler/childrens-play-big-deal/

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New to parenting?

Welcome! Our  children choose us and we choose them. Never forget that they are amongst our greatest teachers. Know that you got this! Raise your youths in a manner that resonates with you and tweak things as you go along. Try not to be afraid to try a new approach when necessary.

You may want to consider these things as you learn and  grow. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2014/01/16/7-crippling-parenting-behaviors-that-keep-children-from-growing-into-leaders/#270d84aa5957

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Know any parents who have raised/are raising their child(ren)  in a way that speaks to you? Ask them for advice as you go along. Take what you dig and leave the rest.

 

The Right Brain Develops First ~ Why Play is the Foundation for Academic Learning

Did you know that the right brain develops first? It does so by the time children are 3-4 years of age. The left brain, on the other hand, doesn’t fully come online until children are approximately seven years old; hence the first seven years being recognized as such a critical period in child development.

“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” ~ Albert Einstein

The left brain’s functionality is one of language, numeracy, literacy, analysis and time. It is the logical, calculating, planning, busy-bee part of us that keeps us anchored in the pragmatic world, and in past and future. The right brain, on the other hand, is responsible for empathy, intuition, imagination and creativity. It is where we wonder, dream, connect and come alive. Through the right brain we dwell in the space of no-time, in being absolutely present. While the left brain is more interested in outcomes or product, the right brain cares much more about process—the journey is what matters, not the destination. 

But there is one more vital piece to understand: The right brain connects us to our boundless sense of being. Being is primary; hence the right brain developing first; hence, human being, not human doing. The left brain is far more interested in doing. Young right-brain dominant children, by contrast, are quite content being.

Understanding this we can better appreciate why play is so important in child learning and development, and why we need to be extra careful with the amount and timing of academic agendas created for children; with how much we emphasize product—what kids have accomplished at school—versus process—who they are becoming and what they feel in their explorations. That the right brain develops first is pertinent information for those in the field of education, as well as parents, regarding what is developmentally appropriate. Pushing literacy and numeracy on children before age seven may just be harmful to their little, developing brains. Without the capacity to use their academic minds in the ways that are being asked can cause children to gain what’s called “learned stupidity.” They believe themselves to be incapable and lose their natural desire to learn.

The push for academia on children is a symptom of a society that is left brain dominant, or forgetful of the wonderful playground that is the right brain. It’s an indicator that we feel safer within the literalness, control and certainty of the left brain, far more than in the unquantifiable and mysterious nature the right brain connects us to.

You cannot measure the qualitative aspects of imagination, empathy and intuition; but, of course, you can measure the aforementioned practical detail-oriented functions associated with the left brain. Yet the more we push those things that can be measured onto children, the more they will grow up feeling like they don’t measure up!

Let’s remember that life is less about the tools the left brain excels in and what we accomplish in this world. Rather, life is about being present and connecting with those you love, or those you don’t even know as children do so freely:

“Walking to the library this morning, I passed on the sidewalk a little child, maybe two years old and his mother”, wrote a friend of mine. “As I neared, the child looked at me, his eyes so alive and present, and when I said ‘Hi’, he stooped and picked up a soggy leaf from the ground and handed it to me. Oh, the abundance and beauty of this world!”

This is the gift of the right brain. While the left brain sunders life into pieces, the right brain unites. This is why babies sense no distinction between themselves and their environment. All is one!

These wise little teachers remind us, courtesy of their right brain, that life is about enjoying the little things, about enchantment and surprise; it’s about being present with another, offering them your gentle ear, hearing between the lines, not just what is being said, which is what logic grasps. With the help of the right brain we touch the hidden places in our heart and in the hearts of others, those secret dimensions that give meaning to life.

The right brain is indeed the playground, or at least, it connects us to it. Let children dwell in this most natural state through their unstructured play, and all its derivatives such as doodling, curiosity, wonder and imagination. People who have a healthy right brain can better use their left brain tools in positive ways. That is the purpose of the left-logical brain: to serve the right brain—doing serves being. Being is the soil from which all our plans, details and actions must flower if we are to experience personal fulfillment and truly contribute to the world.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” ~ Albert Einstein

Here is a TED Talk guaranteed to provide inspiration and more practical knowledge on the matter. Enjoy!

Check out Vince’s book: Let the Fire Burn ~ Nurturing the Creative Spirit of Children, A Children’s Book for Adults

 

Psychologists Recommend Mothers Take ‘Momcations’ to Get Away From Their Families

It is universally known that mothers are some of the most hard-working people in the world.

A mother works 24 hours a day throughout the whole year, and the job comes with a substantial amount of emotional and financial stress.

“Momcation”, a recent trend made popular by social media, is a brief vacation where moms travel together or solo without their family. While the “momcation” can be a fun trip for mothers, psychologists now suggest that moms traveling on their own can improve their family relationships in the long run.

Mothers should be aware that taking momcations can also help them improve their own well-being.

Experts say that taking momcations can also be useful for the other members of the family. Psychology professor Dr. Nava Silton states: “it’s very important for kids to see that balance that ideally needs to be achieved in a family situation.”

Motherhood does not only involve raising a child but also keeping the house in order, being present at all school activities, making meals, planning the week and so on.

A mom can often feel as if she is the only person that can keep the kids on a schedule and manage the household.

Before taking a trip, the mother can devise a care plan for the spouse, members of the family, or friends who will be caring for the children.

Once she returns home from her momcation the mom will feel well rested and refreshed. One mother says: “I came back and I was a better mom. A more patient mom. A better wife. You learn to appreciate what you have at home because you got that break from it all.”

Taking as little as a couple of days from the hardships of life or even going out for a coffee with a friend every now and then can greatly improve a mother’s mental, physical, and emotional health. Check it out for yourself!

Have you ever taken a momcation? How did you feel after returning?

Share your thoughts and experiences with us in the comment section below.

By Kris Di | IHeartIntelligence.com | Republished with permission

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